Ask a Mentor

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Got Kidney Questions? We've Got (Experienced) Ears!
Introducing "Ask a Mentor."

Ever feel like you're navigating the kidney care maze blindfolded, armed only with a slightly crumpled map and a half-eaten granola bar? We get it. That's why we created "Ask a Mentor"!

Think of this as your friendly neighborhood kidney care water cooler, where we share the collective wisdom and experiences of our amazing ReMend community. You know, those "I wish someone had told me that!" moments? We're aiming to gather them all in one place.

What's the Deal?
"Ask a Mentor" is a public forum where you can submit your burning kidney care questions. No question is too big, too small, or too "Wait, is that normal?" We're here to shine a light on common concerns and show you the kinds of supportive conversations you can have with a ReMend Mentor.

Here's the Catch (It's a Tiny One):
Because we want to keep things safe and sound (and avoid any HIPAA headaches), please don’t include any personal information in your question like your name, address, or medical details. Keep it general, like "How do others manage fatigue?" or "What are some good tips for sticking to a low-sodium diet?"

Think of it this way:
You're not sharing your medical file; you're sharing a relatable experience. It's like asking, "Has anyone else ever tried to make a kidney-friendly casserole and ended up with something that could double as a paperweight?" We've all been there!

Why Ask a Mentor?

  • Learn from Others: See what questions others have and discover helpful tips and insights.

  • Get a Glimpse of Mentorship: Understand the kind of support and guidance a ReMend Mentor can provide.

  • Feel Less Alone: Realize that you're not the only one navigating this journey.

  • Maybe Even Get a Chuckle: Because sometimes, a little humor goes a long way.

Please remember that the information provided in the "Ask a Mentor" forum is for informational and community support purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice or substitute for the advice of your physician or other qualified healthcare professional. Always consult with your doctor or other qualified health provider for any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.

Ready to ask?

Submit your question below!

We can't wait to hear from you and help build a community of support and understanding. Let's face it, kidney care is a team sport, and we're all on the same team. Your personal information will not be shared.

Your Questions. Answered.

 

What are your favorite kidney-friendly snacks?

Q: When I’m on the go, I never know what to grab. What are your favorite kidney-friendly snacks you keep in your bag or car?

 
 

Feeling exhausted all the time.

Q: I feel wiped out all the time—how do you manage the constant fatigue that comes with kidney disease?

 
 

Appointments can be overwhelming.

Q: Sometimes the nonstop labs and doctor visits feel overwhelming. What helps you keep it all together without burning out?

 
 

What I didn’t know before transplant.

Q: Looking back, is there one thing you wish you had asked before you went through your transplant?

 
 

Dialysis Hangover

Q: After dialysis, I sometimes feel like I’ve been hit by a truck. Do you have any tricks for dealing with that 'dialysis hangover' feeling?

 
 

Trouble remembering to take medications.

Q: How do you remember to take all your medications on time, especially with a complicated schedule?

 
 

Dealing with the mental side of taking medications.

Q: I'm a little freaked out about taking all these meds every day for the rest of my life. How do you all deal with the mental side of it?

 
 

Regaining Confidence After a CKD Diagnosis

Q: Since my CKD diagnosis, my body has changed and it's been tough on my confidence. I just don't feel like myself anymore. What are some ways to feel good about myself again and get that positive body image back?

 
 

What can you do to feel in control of your situation?

Q: This diagnosis is really freaking me out. I'm worried about everything changing. I feel totally overwhelmed. What's something you did that made you feel more in control? 

 
 

How can I still enjoy my favorite foods without hurting my kidneys?

Q: The dietary restrictions for dialysis are confusing. How can I still enjoy my favorite foods without hurting my kidneys? Do I have to eat vegetarian? I absolutely hate vegetables. Do I have to be careful about what I drink, too??? 

 
 

How do you manage to keep a normal schedule?

Q: My dialysis schedule messes with everything – work, family, you name it. How do you manage to keep some kind of normal life going while being tied to the machine so often? Seriously, any tips would be a lifesaver.

 
 

What is it like to travel if you’re on dialysis?

Q: What is it like to travel if you’re on dialysis? Is it easy to get dialysis appointments in centers away from home? If you do home hemodialysis or peritoneal dialysis, can you take the equipment and supplies on an airplane? Can you get them through TSA screening without a hassle?

 
 

Is an AV Fistula painful?

Q: My doctor says that my kidney disease has progressed to the point where I need dialysis and has recommended that I go in for vascular surgery to get an AV fistula produced in my arm. While she explained what that is and why I need it, it looks painful! What’s it like to live with one for a long time? Does it hurt to constantly insert thick dialysis needles? If I eventually get a transplant, do they reverse the fistula?

 
 

Home Hemo or Peritoneal Dialysis: which is better for an active, independent person?

Q: I am entering end-stage kidney disease and will shortly have to go on renal replacement therapy. I am young and, up until recently when my kidney disease got bad, was pretty active. I am trying to decide whether home hemodialysis or peritoneal dialysis is the best choice for me. For you mentors who have chosen one over the other (assuming you had a choice), what influenced your decision? Have any of you ever done both at different times in your kidney journey? What has been your experience? I also live alone and don’t really have someone to help me – does that make a difference or is it possible to do either home HD or PD by yourself?

 
 

What does kidney donation "match" mean?

Q: I have been on dialysis for a little over a year now, going in three times a week. I am on the transplant list but so far, no “matching” kidney has emerged.  A close friend of mine has indicated that he’d be willing to donate a kidney, but neither of us is sure that his kidney is a “match” or even exactly what that means.  Can someone explain it in simple terms?

 
 

Transplant meds and meals: Is the strict timing really necessary?

Q: I have a transplant that has changed my life but, while I know it seems trivial, I have to take my rejection medicine twice a day either an hour before, or two hours after, eating a meal. Sometimes this is quite inconvenient. Is this really necessary?